Success Stories
I treat each client relationship with complete confidentiality, I respect a clients privacy. I have listed several success stories that I feel are a direct reflection of my Life Coaching. All names and locations have been altered to protect the clients identity. These clients were non revenue clients and were coached for demonstration purposes only. Some were coached on the telephone one-on-one or in a teleclass with many students listening. Others were coached in person either privately or in front of a large audience.
Mary lives in florida and working a minimum wage job. She is a single mom with 2 children. Mary was working 40+ hours a week just to make ends meet. She had a high school education was not able to get a job paying much more than minimum wage. She had considered getting a second job to support her family. She was living in an apartment paying $600 a month rent plus utilities. She had no savings and was truly living week to week.
Mary thought the answer was to get a second job and ask her mother to watch the kids while she worked a night job. Even let the children sleep at her mothers house since she would not get off work until after midnight.
First I asked Mary to fill out some self inventory forms. While Mary was filling them out, she felt they were very personal and required a lot of thinking. Once they were all filled out Mary did not need me to tell her what she really wanted, one look and she realized that she needed to find a way to reduce her monthly overhead and find a better paying job.
The next step was to separate the income and career questions. After just three telephone sessions, together we were able to design a "road map" whereby Mary would move out of her apartment and move in with her mother for one year. That would save Mary over $10,000 (rent and utilities) in one year. Sure Mary was not thrilled with the idea of moving home with two children for a year, but she then quit her day job, used her night job to support her kids and pay for tuition to a technical school.
Within 6 months, she graduated from a technical school with a new trade, had more job offers than anyone would believe and she immediately increased her income from just under $ 24,560. to over $ 42,000. She went from working almost 70 hours a week to just 45 hours a week.
I am sure during the year Mary lived with her mom it was a sacrifice, I am sure she missed her freedom, but she was able to reduce her overhead immediately, learn to live on less and be able to afford a trade school. I interviewed Mary one year after I coached her, she told me she not only loved her new career, she learned to STOP SPENDING, during that year and she was being much more thrifty now, even though she had more disposable income than she ever had in her life.
I knew from the first minute I talked to Mary that was the answer, but I did not tell her, I let her go through the process of determining what her "REAL" goals were, what she really wanted out of life. Once she determined on her own what she wanted, reaching the goal was easy. Mary told me the biggest hurdle all along was being afraid to quit her day job that paid $7 per hour. She said that I did not give her any answers, I gave her the courage to "make that leap" in the new direction.
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Bob was a great husband, worked day and night, but made a great living. He sure knew how to support a family. He lived with his lovely wife Sarah and their two teenage children, Brad and Lori. Sarah drove a new white Cadillac, they lived in a 4,500 square foot house in a upscale neighborhood. Bob was not sure what his kids were doing since he was always at work trying to make enough money to support the family. He felt proud to be such a great supporter. But he was not happy at all. In fact, he was ready to run away. He was angry at his family, he felt like they used him. They did not respect him or appreciate him. They took him and his money for granted. He wanted to run away from his job, his monthly responsibility and his family.
Bob's lovely wife Sarah tells a totally different story. This only came out when I asked both of them to fill out a personal appraisal form. Sarah resents Bob for always working. While all the other husbands are at home spending quality time making memories with their families, Bob is always at the office. Sarah is always calling Bob asking what time he will be home for dinner. She is very busy taking the kids, shopping and volunteering her time to many organizations, which she really does not enjoy, but it gives her a sense of respect in their socail circles.
Their oldest, Brad is busy with friends, Bob is so tied up at work, he could not name all of Brad's teachers by name. Brad is starting to run with the wrong crowd. He needed some immediate parenting.
Lori is the baby, she is a lovely young lady but is very disrespectful to her father. It is almost embarrassing to hear her talk to her parents.
Bob contacted me and said, he needed help. He thought about contacting a therapist, but he did not believe he was at that point that he needed mental help. He thought about contacting a Certified Financial Planner, but they could not give him advice on marriage, work, family, time management and family. He even thought about contacting a psychic to see his future. Then he heard about Life Coaching, someone told him, why pay a psychic to tell you your future, why not create your own future, they way you want it to be.
I offered to coach Bob and his family, provided he would allow me to coach the whole family, not just him. He agreed, the family agreed, we held private coaching sessions, we held sessions with just the parents and sessions with the whole family. It was extensive, very personal and very emotional at time. We never discussed emotional disorders, never tried to place blame, never dug into childhood, never came up with a theory why things happened, just acknowledged that they did. Most of all, we never put labels on the problems.
After many sessions, many worksheets, many self inventories and personal appraisals, we determined that really what the family wanted was to be a family. They wanted to spend quality time together, they were willing to live on less if they could reduce the stress level at home. Sarah was willing to STOP SPENDING, she even cut back on her volunteering and helped Bob start a new business. Yes, Bob quit his job and the family started a new business, they all work together. They all have on goal in mind, they want to make a living and still have time to enjoy life. They have achieved BALANCE in their lives.
Balance is the key to Life. More than anything else, balance is what we all need in our lives. Yes, they sold their 4,500 house, moved into a new subdivision house with 2,300 square feet. Sarah traded the Cadillac in for a smaller car and reduced their payments. Bob told me with my Healthy Life Program, he now hopes to be debt free in less than 4 years. (not counting his home mortgage). That is right, no credit card debt, no car payments, no bank loans of any kind except for a 30 year home loan.
Bob feels so much better, he enjoys his new business venture, he is getting to know his kids again, he says his relationship with his wife is 100% better. Sarah claims she has never seen her family this happy. The kids are adjusting to the new life. They don't go to the mall to walk and spend money, they are learning that money is not a substitute for love and affection.
I learned that sometimes Life Coaching can produce miracles, it is not the coach, it is the coaching process. Would you like a miracle in your life. Order your Healthy Life Program now.
Like all success stories there are those failures, so it would not be right to leave off without a case where I experienced failure.
Clair was in her mid thirties, had no children, had a negative boyfriend and was told her whole life she "can't". Oh was this a case of the little train nursery rime, "I think I can, I think I can". Clair was in a dead end job, had plenty of credit but was saddled with debt. She was not happy and her boyfriend liked her just like that. He did not want her to change.
After about 5 weeks, I realized that Life Coaches can only help people that want help. Like the old saying, you can take a horse to water, but you can't make them drink it. I was very successful in finding out where the detours in her life were, what stumbling blocks she faced, but she was not willing to take the initiative to jump over them. I realized she suffered from the same thing elephants suffer from. Oh you ask what is that?
I was at the circus with my kids and I noticed that the elephants stand still on a little rope tied to a pole holding up a tent. They could run and pull the whole tent down in a split second, but they don't move. I was thinking, I sure wish I could get my dog to behave like that. So I asked the man taking care of the elephants, how did you do such a good job training the elephants?
He replied, it was simple. When the elephants are small, unable to pull with such force, we put a heavy chain around their ankles and hook it to the trailer. they pull and pull, almost hurt themselves trying to get away. After a few days, they break their drive or desire to run. After that, you can lead them around with the smallest rope. They won't even try because they remember that one time they tried and could not get away and it hurt.
I realized that Clair was broken, she did not want to change, she did not want a new life. She was happy complaining about her current situation. I ended our coaching relationship and advised her to contact a therapist since she must have had some deep disorder that kept her down. I asked her to contact me once she finished with the therapist and I would try and help her. Last I heard she was still in therapy.
So all cases do not end up as happy as the first two. I am trained to watch for signs from clients who don't plan to take advantage of the wonderful things life has to offer.
If you think you are happy being miserable, please contact a therapist, if you feel you are ready to improve your life, contact me today. Master Life Coach
I do not offer get rich quick programs, special pills or lotions or potions. I offer my clients a chance to see the real "you" from another angle. I offer a method to stop for 5 minutes and look at your life from the outside. The question is, are you satisfied? If not, order the Healthy Life Program today.